Stress Messages



  1. The impacts of stress are ’at the surface’. You are fully mentally and emotionally healthy underneath.
  • Stress is about the impact of events, not your personality or personal failings.
  • No need to be defensive about having stress symptoms.
  • It takes a really strong person to face up to needing stress relief. Stress hormones are addictive.
  1. Your perception of events affects the impact of those events.
  1. Whether you view an event as positive or negative, the stress impact remains the same.
  1. Stress is the body’s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response. The body reacts to these changes with physical, mental, and emotional responses. Stress is a normal part of life. Note: Stress is first and foremost physical, not mental.
  1. More specifically, stress involves an overload of hormone stimulation. Hormones are addictive chemicals. This is recognised in the term ‘adrenaline junkie’ When stressed repeatedly, you are flooded by hormones. Your body has a new ‘normal’ and strives to maintain that new normal.
  1. Dealing with stress requires fighting the addiction to having your body overloaded with stress hormones. You have to fight the signals your brain receives, to break the pattern.
  1. Hormone overload can feel like lethargy, lack of energy, and stuck immobility. You do not have too little energy: you have an overload. So the paradox is that when feeling unable, you need to burn the surplus down to a healthy energy level.
  • Exercise is a known stress relief method. However, it is not enough by itself, if you allow your mind and body to promptly reinstate the stress hormone.
  1. Suppression is a lousy way of trying to control emotional hormonal overload.
  • Release from stress requires letting go of suppression. You will not want to do so. It requires breaking a powerful habit.
  1. Coping is also a lousy method of avoiding dealing with stress. Coping behaviours are denial, worry, isolation, blame, reverting to younger behaviour, and self-destruction. Self-destructions range from being forgetful, or accident-prone, right through to drinking, gambling, drugs and self-harm, and suicide.
  1. The more varieties of coping you use and the stronger you use them, the greater the depth of stress addiction. However, everyone uses some coping behaviours some times.
  1. Addictions generate rationalisations in your mind to continue or increase the addictive overload.
  • ‘I can handle it’
  • ‘I don’t need help’
  • ‘It will sort itself’
  • ‘I am different’,
  • ‘I will be okay after a sleep’, etc.
  1. Fight stress physically first, mentally second. Not the other way round.
  • This is a big fight. It took you years to build the stress pattern.
  • You cannot shorten the recovery period, but you can improve the trajectory and the outcome level at the end of the recovery.
  1. Oxygen is a major factor. Hormones are readily oxygenised out of the bloodstream if you give your body the necessary oxygen.
  1. First master deep breathing. Then battle the insidious addiction messages in the brain to revert to stressed breathing. It takes willpower and persistence.
  1. Feelings follow your mental focus. Learn to attention switch.
  1. Visibility is a vital part of stress relief therapy. This will go against the grain. Stress makes people feel out of control, powerless, and invisible. Visibility is a countermeasure. More on Visibility/overcoming invisibility is below
  1. Stress relief requires breaking through barriers to manage emotional release and relief; in ways that you have suppressed. So you need to have both the will to tackle new methods that you consider strange, unattractive and which you want to reject – and also a degree of trust that the gains are worth the pain of making the effort. They are.