Change usually evokes feelings of threat, triggering “Fight or Flight” reactions. The stimulation can be felt as anger. For instance, there are many reasons for being angry during a discussion dealing with changes. However, a lot of anger, felt during debates, designed to realign power and responsibility, tends to be “residual” anger. Residual anger is where current situations trigger off anger belonging to past unresolved issues.
Most anger is rooted in:
- perceived threat,
- unresolved frustrations,
- arousal from the current situation.
To be able to resolve the current situation, individuals need to accept responsibility for the level of their anger. Your choices and actions are your own. No one makes you do anything.
Situational factors affect whether individuals are likely to become aroused and angry (to a degree). But the individual, themselves, control:
- the depth of the anger,
- maintenance of the anger,
- the type of anger reaction allowed,
- the frequency of anger you allow yourself.